Healing Infidelity with Hypnotherapy

When you get cheated on it feels like death. 

Everything you know about your world stops. On a human level, that happens because a person we loved and trusted hurt us. They betrayed our trust. They rewrote our love story. 

But on a subconscious level, there is a whole other story happening. 

It always comes back to survival. We are wired to be a part of a village. When we are paired up in our village, it's almost like our survival is guaranteed. We have someone to watch our backs and defend us from the scary stuff "out there" 

When we feel "kicked out" of that village, panic kicks in. How will we survive? 

But that's just one part of it. 

When we get cheated on, girlfriends and loved ones are quick to give your power away. "He's an asshole!" "You deserve so much better" and the classic..."It's him, not you" 

Those sound like loving and comforting words, until you dig deep into the truth. 

And the truth is, we always attract what we are subconsciously available for. 

If we carry shame, fear, dependency tendencies, we will only be attracted to partners that allow us to continue those patterns. 

*The patterns are not bad per se. They are also there for survival. 

So, the question then becomes, why was I attracted to someone who wasn't emotionally available for me? What in me needed this lesson? 

At first, this sounds preposterous when you think of all the great women who did not deserve to be cheated on. At first glance, these woman are perfect. 

They're pretty, kind, and do everything for their families.

But look closer and you'll see that they all have the same thing in common. They didn't see their own greatness. 

They didn't know themselves. They didn't love themselves unconditionally. 

And as a result, their worth came from their partner. It came from being told they were doing a "good job" by society. It came from outside of them. 

The cheater was irrelevant. The lesson for the woman was everything. 

This is why if the lesson isn't learned, we may continue to end up in unfulfilling or toxic relationships. 

When you tap into your mind to find out your own source of romance, love and magic (especially after being cheated on) something big happens. 

You stop needing revenge. You stop needing answers. 

You stop worrying about making the "right choices." Should I stay for the kids? Should I go for my mental health? How will I survive? Can I live without him? What if he is happier without me? What if I end up alone? 

All those questions dissolve when you fall in love with yourself. Because suddenly, you don't need to make decisions from survival. Suddenly, you know yourself and you know what makes you happy and you develop the backbone you need to make those things happen. 

When you love yourself and are completely and subconsciously unavailable for cheaters, your nervous system will make sure you are attracted to good men. 

THAT is the power of RTT. And that is why I created The Self Love Elixir program for women who know they are one identity shift away from walking away from the pain and moving into a fulfilled life. 

Find out more about The Self Love Elixir Here