You Can't Heal your Trauma with Things Outside of You

Hey Beautiful, 

Today I'm stopping by to drop a big truth bomb on you. 

You can't heal your trauma with things outside of you. 

What does that mean exactly? Well, I see this a lot (and I used to do it too) 

Before I really started my healing journey, I felt very little (if any) self-worth. I always carried lingering fear from my past. And I was always afraid of the future. 

I couldn't be alone with my thoughts for more than a few minutes at a time. 

So I did what most people do. I looked for relief outside of myself. 

I shopped (even when I couldn't afford to.) I watched hours and hours and hours of T.V. I went through a phase were I relied heavily on alcohol to get me through my days. And I slept a lot because I always felt tired. 

And then I decided to heal. 

What I didn't know at the time was that even though my conscious mind was "committed" to that choice, my subconscious mind was not at all on board. 

I went all in on the outside. I bought books, joined a gym, changed my diet, and I completely changed up all the content I consumed. I stopped watching so much t.v. and got control over my alcohol consumption. 

This was great because I could feel a lot of my mindset changing for the better.

But I was still depressed and I didn't really feel that self-love I was so desperately craving.

So what happened? What was the disconnect? 

The problem was that I was expecting all those things outside of me to magically change me. But I wasn't doing the actual work to transform. 

That's because deep down I knew transformation would be extremely uncomfortable. I knew I would have to let go of people in my life, and habits that were familiar. 

And Familiar= Safety.

I knew that if I decided to heal, I would have to take a deep look inside myself and admit that I was responsible for my pain. And I would have to hold myself accountable for it. 

And I knew that once I did that I would still have to figure out the steps on how to actually heal it.

But once I made that commitment and followed through with it everything changed. 

I started to feel real-sef love and as a result I could see my life changing. Everything from my romantic relationship to my finances to my health started getting better and better.

I can't say my life is perfect, far from it. But I do know that now I see my worth and beauty despite anything I have or don't have. And my life reflects that. 

How about you? Can you relate to any of this? 

If so drop a comment with your best tips for healing. And if not I have some great news. 

On July 18th I will be hosting a 3-day workshop  on Zoom covering healing in Mind, Body, & Soul. I'm including a special "Heal your Trauma" Hypnosis session, a new Meditation, and 3-workbooks. There will also be 3 Epic Prizes. The value you will get out of this is ridiculous! I charge thousands of dollars for sessions like this so if you're interested make sure you sign up. 

Love you so much, 

Edna